Have you ever had trouble telling your partner about your fantasies? Women have the problem as you do. We all have certain fantasies and fetishes that we don’t advertise to the whole world. Men and women are afraid of what others will think if their fantasy is non-vanilla. In a traditional relationship, if the man is afraid to tell his significant other about his fantasy, he will seek out a fetish dating site and get some action on the side.
If you have a specific fantasy or fetish you so desperately crave, and you’re not receiving that in your sex life, you’re going to be frustrated. For example, let’s say you’re the type of guy that enjoys being submissive but you don’t have the balls to tell your partner. She’ll continue expecting you to be play the dominant role during sex, which will leave you unsatisfied. You might enjoy the sex but you’ll always be thinking you need something more.
Women feel the same way. They have certain fantasies they want to act out but are often too afraid to tell their partner. Women are very self-conscious and often suffer from a lack of self-esteem. If you want to please her to the fullest, you better be willing to allow her to act out her sexual fantasies. But before she can do that, you have to get her to open up to you about those fantasies. How do you do that? Here are 3 ways I’ve had success getting my women to open up to me…
Share Your Fantasies First
Be bold and let her know what you’re into first. Just the fact that you’re sharing your own fantasies will make her feel comfortable and will get her to open up. I should throw some caution to the wind. Don’t bust out your fantasies and fetishes right away. Get to know her a little bit. It might annoy her if you go too in-depth about your sexual desires before you’ve broken the ice.
Even if you share your fantasies with her right away, she’s still unlikely to share hers with you. She’ll need to trust you and feel comfortable talking to you before sharing such secretive information. However, you should discuss fantasies before ever meeting. That way you’ll know if you’re going to be a good match in bed or not. Sex is always better with likeminded people.
Tell Her You’re Open Minded
On the very first discussion you have with her, let her know you’re an open-minded guy. Tell her you want to explore new sexual fantasies. Women will open up to a guy that she knows is open-minded in bed. On one occasion, I let a woman online know right away that I was an open-minded guy and she immediately responded with, “I have always wanted to have sex with a guy in a fireman’s outfit”. And, yes, I did do her many times with a fireman’s outfit on. Whatever floats her boat!
Play Truth Or Dare
Truth or Dare is a silly game, usually played by horny college students. But it’s a great bedroom game. Get naked with her and tell her you want to play Truth or Dare. When she asks for a “Truth”, ask her to share her deepest, darkest sexual fantasy. It’s amazing how openly women will speak about their sexual desires when they’re playing Truth or Dare.