The old-fashioned mindset in society is that the man should always pay for a date – especially a first date. It’s actually very rare for a woman to pay. That’s because the man doesn’t want to feel inferior. It’s almost degrading to men if the woman pays. And it’s considered unattractive to women if the man requires her to pay. Though most women will say they don’t mind splitting a bill, the truth is they probably won’t go out on a second date with a man that made them pay for their tab.
A friend of mine brought up a good point. If you’re out looking for a long-term relationship and are going through traditional dating methods, we would all agree that a man should pay for the first date (and probably the second, third, fourth, etc.). But his theory is that “hookup dating” is not the same. His exact comment was “you’re just going out to get laid, not find your future bride”.
Since this website was created for those of us that are only looking for a sexual relationship, I decided to write an article about whether or not we should pay the full bill for a first date. He was correct in saying we’re not out looking for a future bride. I don’t know any guys that sign-up for hookup dating sites expecting to meet their future ex-wife. Although, I do know a few people that ended up marrying their booty call. But that’s not very common.
My friend was very adamant about “not paying for sex”. What he meant was if you are required to pay for her tab, she’s nothing more than a glorified hooker. He does have a point…sort of. My response to that was men that take a girl out on a more traditional date and pay for the bill would be dating a hooker, by his logic. After all, they’re eventually going to have sex.
People in relationships have sex. It may not be today or tomorrow, but eventually it will happen. However, the relationship will never evolve if the man doesn’t pay for the first date. That’s because the woman will be unimpressed with him being a cheap bastard. So there will never be any sex between them. So if he’s going to claim that paying for drinks, dinner, etc. for a woman you only have the intention of sleeping with makes her a hooker, every woman that allows a guy to pay for a date is a hooker, in my opinion. No, I really don’t believe these women are hookers, I’m just using his logic.
To finally answer the question…
Calling a woman a hooker just because she requires a man to pay for the first date is silly. That’s how women (and men) were raised. We are expected to pay for a date. Not because they’re gold digging whores, but because that’s what men have been doing for hundreds of years. Cheapskates do not get laid. It doesn’t matter if you’re out looking for sex or a relationship – if you’re not willing to front the bill, she won’t be willing to give you what you want.
So, yes, I do believe a man should pay for the ENTIRE bill on a first date. It will show her he’s not a tightwad. The ONLY reason I pay for the bill is because I know I won’t get laid if I don’t. If the bill comes and I ask her, “hey, can you pay for your half?”, there’s no way I’m getting laid. We don’t have to like paying for women, but we have to do it. Your only other option is to go home and jerkoff. The choice is yours…